When events like what happened last Friday occur, it is important for us to take time time to care for ourselves and others around us.  Here are some helpful tips from crisis counselors on how we should take care of ourselves:

  • Get periods of appropriate physical exercise, alternated with relaxation will alleviate some of the physical reactions
  • Structure you time; keep busy
  • You are normal and having normal reactions; don’t label yourself crazy
  • Talk to people; talk is the most healing medicine
  • Be aware of numbing the pain with overuse of drugs and alcohol.  You don’t need to complicate this with a substance abuse problem
  • Reach out; people do care
  • Maintain as normal a schedule as possible
  • Spend time with others
  • Help your co-workersas much as possible by sharing feelings and checking out how they are doing
  • Give yourself permission to feel rotten and share your feelings with others
  • Keep a journal; write your way through those sleepless hours
  • Do things that feel good to you
  • Realize those around you are under stress
  • Don’t make any big life changes
  • Do make as many daily decisions as possible that will give you a feeling of control over your life.  i.e., if someone asks you what you want to eat, answer them even if you are not sure.
  • Get plenty of rest
  • Don’t try to fight reoccurring thoughts, dreams, or flashbacks – they are normal and will decrease over time and become less painful
  • Eat well-balanced and regular meals (even if you don’t feel like it).

FOR FAMILY MEMBERS & FRIENDS:

  • Listen carefully
  • Spend time with the traumatized person
  • Offer you assistance and a listening ear if they have not asked for help
  • Reassure them they are safe
  • Help them with everyday tasks like cleaning, cooking, caring for the family, watching their children
  • Give them some private time
  • Don’t take their anger or other feelings personally
  • Don’t tell them they are “lucky it wasn’t worse”; a traumatized person is not consoled by those statements.  Instead, tell them that you are sorry such an event has occurred and you want to understand and assist them.