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About Yvonne Biel

I’m here to journey with others to the feet of Jesus through creative soul care and mind/body healing work. I am the Formation Pastor at South Fellowship Church

How Do You Really Feel | Week 3

Continuing in the Genesis narrative, we uncover the powerful emotion of shame. An emotion that brings about death in ourselves and in our relationships. In Genesis 2:25, we find a young couple standing in the presence of God vulnerable and completely secure – surrounded by love. Only one chapter later, we find this same couple overwhelmed by their vulnerability – terrified and covered up.

According to Dr. Brené Brown, “shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging.”

The result of the Fall brings about the voice of shame whispering inside of all of us, “I’m bad and cannot stand to be in the presence of a holy God.”

But God goes out of his way to remind us, “My name is Love.” He shows up on the scene extending safety in his presence even with his parental consequences for sin.

Only in the presence of a loving God, can shame be healed. Even scientists today prove love mends shame. With Christ, we learn the voice of true love and belonging. We can bask in his love. Tuning in to hear his voice will be key to changing our inner emotional narratives and healing deeply rooted shame.

  1. Get Honest … When in your life have you felt vulnerable and ashamed? What messages did you hear? How did you return to the voice of love?
  2. Change Mind … Listen for what Jesus wants to say about your experience of shame.
  3. Walk Anew … What invitation does Jesus have for you when it comes to shame?

Emotionally Healthy Relationship Class — Sunday, March 20 at 10:30am
Ready to take the next step? Add a few new communication skills to your toolbox by attending this 8-week class. Register online to let us know you’re coming and pick up books on Sunday morning. A donation of $20 to cover the books is appreciated.

How Do You Really Feel | Week 32022-03-14T03:27:59-06:00

How Do You Really Feel | Week 2

Humans are born with desire. The reason we all carry strong feelings of wanting or wishing is because of another word – need. We all know the feeling of desire and longing because we all have real needs. As infants, we wake up in a world filled with need – we cry out for nourishment, safety, security, affection, the list goes on.

If desire is a seed, emotion is its fruit.

Looking at the fruit of our emotions, we can trace every emotion down to its seed of desire – whether satisfied or unsatisfied. The trouble is that both desire and emotion can deceive us. Just like in the garden of Eden where Adam and Eve were deceived by their misguided desire, we, too, are deceived by seeds of misguided desires and end up wallowing in shadowed and undesired emotional fruit.

This week, we’re diving into the Genesis 3 narrative to see how needs, desires, and emotions show off their ‘shadow’ side when sin enters the story. Now, we live in a world where we have God-given needs, yet even desire deceives.

Therefore, as followers of Jesus learning to walk in his way, we must find safe spaces to process our emotion and be able to re-ground ourselves in truth.

  1. Get Honest … Where is your safe space to process your emotions? Are you able to process emotions or do you tend to explode or suppress? What helps you come back to truth?
  2. Change Mind … Listen for what Jesus wants to say to you about how to process your emotion.
  3. Walk Anew … What step might help you move toward processing your emotions instead of exploding or suppressing?

If you’re looking to take the next step toward finding a safe space to process your emotions or life challenges, use this link and fill out the form online to meet with someone from our pastoral care team.

How Do You Really Feel | Week 22022-03-08T21:35:43-07:00

How Do You Really feel? Week 1

South Fellowship Church has selected a series on Emotions during the season of Lent to ground us in our humanity and help walk us through how to process several core emotions with God. We’ll explore stories in Genesis to see how emotions have always been a part of the human experience. For example, Genesis 21:8-21 gives us a glimpse into a real woman’s experience with rejection, deprivation, and despair. Yet, her encounter with God made all the difference.

Our emotions are just as real as Hagar’s and where we go with them can affect everything around us. An emotion is simply a natural instinctive state of mind deriving from one’s circumstance, mood, or relationship with others. This emotional wiring in all of us is God-designed and helpful for understanding and responding to the world around us. Join us for the next seven weeks to journey through emotions – seeking to better understand and process them in healthy ways.

  1. Get Honest … Look at the emotions wheel on the back of this guide and share which emotion you like the most and why. Share which emotion you like the least and why. How do you feel about having an entire sermon series on emotions?
  2. Change Mind … Listen for what Jesus wants to say to you about the full range of emotion.
  3. Walk Anew … How might Jesus want you to enter this sermon series?
How Do You Really feel? Week 12022-02-25T08:53:27-07:00

Not Forgiven

Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?”

Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.

Therefore, the kingdom of heaven is like a king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants. As he began the settlement, a man who owed him ten thousand bags of gold was brought to him. Since he was not able to pay, the master ordered that he and his wife and his children and all that he had be sold to repay the debt. At this the servant fell on his knees before him. ‘Be patient with me,’ he begged, ‘and I will pay back everything.’ The servant’s master took pity on him, canceled the debt and let him go.

But when that servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred silver coins. He grabbed him and began to choke him. ‘Pay back what you owe me!’ he demanded. His fellow servant fell to his knees and begged him, ‘Be patient with me, and I will pay it back.’ But he refused. Instead, he went off and had the man thrown into prison until he could pay the debt.

When the other servants saw what had happened, they were outraged and went and told their master everything that had happened. Then the master called the servant in. ‘You wicked servant,’ he said, ‘I canceled all that debt of yours because you begged me to. Shouldn’t you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as I had on you?’ In anger his master handed him over to the jailers to be tortured, until he should pay back all he owed.

This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart.” (Matthew 18:21-35)

Forgiveness is no joke in God’s Kingdom. Jesus states several times throughout his ministry that if we hold unforgiveness in our hearts toward others, “our Father will not forgive us” (Matthew 6:15). Ouch. Jesus takes unforgiveness seriously and as followers of Jesus, we cannot ignore this teaching.

What does God’s unforgiveness mean exactly? Does this mean God is an unmerciful God and unwilling to act kindly toward us if we don’t cooperate with him? Or does this mean when we don’t cooperate in the area of forgiveness we, as children of a merciful King, refuse his Kingdom values and therefore, cannot taste it for ourselves? I propose the latter.

Our resentful behavior will be held against us by our Heavenly Father much like a good parent withholds reward from his/her child acting out of character and out of alignment with family values. We are the children hurting when we refuse to forgive. We are the ones jeopardizing our experience of the trust and intimacy with our Heavenly Father when we don’t extend his Kingdom values to the world around us. We are the immature who are missing out on tasting the goodness of God’s Kingdom.

Jesus emphasizes forgiveness because our human relationships affect our relationship with God. When we forgive, we draw close to the only God who forgives and when we walk in resentment, we separate ourselves from the source of forgiveness – and with it his life and blessing.

So, let’s take forgiveness seriously today. I’m sure everyone of us has someone to forgive – whether it’s a major trauma or minor infraction. It’s inevitable. We’re human. But let’s first stop to check in with our souls. Do you feel distant from God today? Get honest and tell God where unforgiveness is creating a barrier with him and receive his forgiveness so you can continue extending his forgiveness to those around you.

Not Forgiven2022-02-18T13:08:45-07:00

Formation Guide | Week 8

Forgiveness is a major theme for Jesus in his personal and ministry experience on earth, so it must become important for us, too. Read the verse that follows the Lord’s Prayer in Matthew 6:14 and ponder the process of forgiveness. What might Jesus want you to know about forgiveness?

  1. Get Honest … How difficult is it for you to forgive? Who is it easy to forgive? Who is it difficult?
  2. Change Mind … Listen for what Jesus wants to speak into your experience concerning forgiveness.
  3. Walk Anew … What step might Jesus want you to take in response to what he’s shown you?

FORMATION CHALLENGE … Take a next step toward reconciliation

Formation Guide | Week 82022-02-18T12:55:39-07:00

Lead Us Not

“And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.” (Matthew 6:14)

What is Jesus saying here? It seems he is asking his Father in Heaven to “not” lead him down this path. Interestingly enough, his request contradicts the very thing the Spirit of God led him to do only two chapters earlier. Matthew tells us Jesus was led into the wilderness to be tempted by Satan for forty days (Matthew 4:1-11).

Looking further back in scriptural history, we know God allowed Job to experience testing and trial from the evil one (Job 1:6-9). Israel was led into the wilderness for a time of testing (Hebrews 3:7-9). And this type of suffering is to be an expected theme in the lives of God-fearers – everywhere from the Garden of Eden to Christ’s return (Genesis 3, James 5:7-11). So, what is Jesus really getting at here when we know God does, in fact, lead his people into seasons of testing?

To answer this, let’s start by asking a different question. What is Jesus modeling for us? Yes, we know God sometimes does lead his people into seasons of hardship. Jesus just experienced this, yet we hear Jesus pleading his father to never do that again. Jesus continued to model this when he pleaded with his Father to relieve him of the unbearable suffering at the cross (Matthew 26:42).

Jesus models a childlike plea. He’s not afraid to ask his father to remove hardships in the form of temptation and testing. He models for us that it’s okay to beg God to remove the hardship. It’s good to be like a child in our requests before him and to ask even for things we assume he will deny.

Today, sit with Jesus at a table and imagine him sipping tea or coffee with you. What do you want to ask him to do for you? How does he respond to your request?

Lead Us Not2022-02-14T12:26:36-07:00

Formation Guide | Week 7

On earth, Jesus needs the Father’s guidance and his deliverance. So do we. Read the Lord’s Prayer in Matthew 6:9-13 and ponder Jesus’ personal need for guidance and deliverance from evil while he was on the earth. What might Jesus want you to know about his struggle with the enemy?

  1. Get Honest … How often do you feel misled or under attack from dark or evil forces? Share with Jesus how this struggle makes you feel and what beliefs consequently arise in you.
  2. Change Mind … Listen for what Jesus wants to speak into your experience concerning the enemy.
  3. Walk Anew … What step might Jesus want you to take in response to what he’s shown you?

FORMATION CHALLENGE … Find someone trustworthy and share your struggle

Formation Guide | Week 72022-02-13T22:10:33-07:00

Not Forgiven

Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?”

Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.

Therefore, the kingdom of heaven is like a king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants. As he began the settlement, a man who owed him ten thousand bags of gold was brought to him. Since he was not able to pay, the master ordered that he and his wife and his children and all that he had be sold to repay the debt. At this the servant fell on his knees before him. ‘Be patient with me,’ he begged, ‘and I will pay back everything.’ The servant’s master took pity on him, canceled the debt and let him go.

But when that servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred silver coins. He grabbed him and began to choke him. ‘Pay back what you owe me!’ he demanded. His fellow servant fell to his knees and begged him, ‘Be patient with me, and I will pay it back.’ But he refused. Instead, he went off and had the man thrown into prison until he could pay the debt.

When the other servants saw what had happened, they were outraged and went and told their master everything that had happened. Then the master called the servant in. ‘You wicked servant,’ he said, ‘I canceled all that debt of yours because you begged me to. Shouldn’t you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as I had on you?’ In anger his master handed him over to the jailers to be tortured, until he should pay back all he owed.

This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart.” (Matthew 18:21-35)

Forgiveness is no joke in God’s Kingdom. Jesus states several times throughout his ministry that if we hold unforgiveness in our hearts toward others, “our Father will not forgive us” (Matthew 6:15). Ouch. Jesus takes unforgiveness seriously and as followers of Jesus, we cannot ignore this teaching.

What does God’s unforgiveness mean exactly? Does this mean God is an unmerciful God and unwilling to act kindly toward us if we don’t cooperate with him? Or does this mean when we don’t cooperate in the area of forgiveness we, as children of a merciful King, refuse his Kingdom values and therefore, cannot taste it for ourselves? I propose the latter.

Our resentful behavior will be held against us by our Heavenly Father much like a good parent withholds reward from his/her child acting out of character and out of alignment with family values. We are the children hurting when we refuse to forgive. We are the ones jeopardizing our experience of the trust and intimacy with our Heavenly Father when we don’t extend his Kingdom values to the world around us. We are the immature who are missing out on tasting the goodness of God’s Kingdom.

Jesus emphasizes forgiveness because our human relationships affect our relationship with God. When we forgive, we draw close to the only God who forgives and when we walk in resentment, we separate ourselves from the source of forgiveness – and with it his life and blessing.

So, let’s take forgiveness seriously today. I’m sure everyone of us has someone to forgive – whether it’s a major trauma or minor infraction. It’s inevitable. We’re human. But let’s first stop to check in with our souls. Do you feel distant from God today? Get honest and tell God where unforgiveness is creating a barrier with him and receive his forgiveness so you can continue extending his forgiveness to those around you.

Not Forgiven2022-02-18T13:01:25-07:00

Formation Guide | Week 6

Jesus emphasizes forgiveness in this short prayer, both on behalf of receiving forgiveness from God and on extending forgiveness to others. Read the Lord’s Prayer in Matthew 6:9-13 and ponder how often Jesus had to pray this to his heavenly Father. Imagine the scenes from Jesus’ life where he needed to lean into this part of the prayer. What might Jesus want you to know from his personal experience with forgiveness?

  1. Get Honest … How would you rate yourself by asking for forgiveness? How about receiving forgiveness? How about extending forgiveness? Share with Jesus reasons each one feels particularly challenging for you.
  2. Change Mind … Listen for what Jesus wants to speak into your heart after becoming so honest with him.
  3. Walk Anew … What step might Jesus want you to take in response to what he’s shown you?

FORMATION CHALLENGE … Take a rock to a body of water, while holding the rock agree with God about your sin and cast it into the water to let it go.

Formation Guide | Week 62022-02-04T11:27:45-07:00

What To Say When You Pray | Week 5 | Monday

Of all the things he could ask his Father in heaven for, he chooses a daily necessity. Read the Lord’s Prayer in Matthew 6:9-13 and sit with the phrase, “Give us today daily bread”. What stands out to you?

  1. Get Honest … What do you typically pray for? Make a list of things you regularly talk with God about or ask him to do for you.
  2. Change Mind … Listen for what Jesus wants to say to you about your prayer life.
  3. Walk Anew … What step might Jesus want you to take in response to what he’s shown you?

FORMATION CHALLENGE … Fast from something intentionally to physically feel your essential needs

What To Say When You Pray | Week 5 | Monday2022-01-31T11:59:43-07:00
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